How to Talk to Anyone (Junior Talker #3) by DeYtH Banger (best book club books of all time .TXT) 📖

worry and tension may be accompanied by physical symptoms, such as restlessness, feeling on edge or easily fatigued, difficulty concentrating, muscle tension or problems sleeping. Often the worries focus on everyday things such as job responsibilities, family health or minor matters such as chores, car repairs, or appointments.

 

Panic Disorder

 

The core symptom of panic disorder is recurrent panic attacks, an overwhelming combination of physical and psychological distress. During an attack several of these symptoms occur in combination:

Palpitations, pounding heart or rapid heart rate Sweating Trembling or shaking Feeling of shortness of breath or smothering sensations Chest pain Feeling dizzy, light-headed or faint Feeling of choking Numbness or tingling Chills or hot flashes Nausea or abdominal pains Feeling detached Fear of losing control Fear of dying

Because symptoms are so severe, many people who experience a panic attack may believe they are having a heart attack or other life-threatening illness and may go to a hospital ER. Panic attacks may be expected, such as a response to a feared object, or unexpected, apparently occurring for no reason. The mean age for onset of panic disorder is 22-23. Panic attacks may occur with other mental disorders such as depression or PTSD.

Phobias, Specific Phobia

A specific phobia is excessive and persistent fear of a specific object, situation or activity that is generally not harmful. Patients know their fear is excessive, but they can’t overcome it. These fears cause such distress that some people go to extreme lengths to avoid what they fear. Examples are fear of flying or fear of spiders.

 

Agoraphobia

 

Agoraphobia is the fear of being in situations where escape may be difficult or embarrassing, or help might not be available in the event of panic symptoms. The fear is out of proportion to the actual situation and lasts generally six months or more and causes problems in functioning. A person with agoraphobia experiences this fear in two or more of the following situations:

Using public transportation Being in open spaces Being in enclosed places Standing in line or being in a crowd Being outside the home alone

The individual actively avoids the situation, requires a companion or endures with intense fear or anxiety. Untreated agoraphobia can become so serious that a person may be unable to leave the house. A person can only be diagnosed with agoraphobia if the fear is intensely upsetting, or if it significantly interferes with normal daily activities.

 

Social Anxiety Disorder (previously called social phobia)

 

A person with social anxiety disorder has significant anxiety and discomfort about being embarrassed, humiliated, rejected or looked down on in social interactions. People with this disorder will try to avoid the situation or endure it with great anxiety. Common examples are extreme fear of public speaking, meeting new people or eating/drinking in public. The fear or anxiety causes problems with daily functioning and lasts at least six months.

 

Separation Anxiety Disorder

 

A person with separation anxiety disorder is excessively fearful or anxious about separation from those with whom he or she is attached. The feeling is beyond what is appropriate for the person’s age, persists (at least four weeks in children and six months in adults) and causes problems functioning. A person with separation anxiety disorder may be persistently worried about losing the person closest to him or her, may be reluctant or refuse to go out or sleep away from home or without that person, or may experience nightmares about separation. Physical symptoms of distress often develop in childhood, but symptoms can carry though adulthood.

 

Risk Factors

 

The causes of anxiety disorders are currently unknown but likely involve a combination of factors including genetic, environmental, psychological and developmental. Anxiety disorders can run in families, suggesting that a combination of genes and environmental stresses can produce the disorders.

 

Diagnosis and Treatment

 

The first step is to see your doctor to make sure there is no physical problem causing the symptoms. If an anxiety disorder is diagnosed, a mental health professional can work with you on the best treatment. Unfortunately, many people with anxiety disorders don’t seek help. They don’t realize that they have an illness that has effective treatments.

Although each anxiety disorder has unique characteristics, most respond well to two types of treatment: psychotherapy, or “talk therapy,” and medications. These treatments can be given alone or in combination. Cognitive behavior therapy (CBT), a type of talk therapy, can help a person learn a different way of thinking, reacting and behaving to help feel less anxious. Medications will not cure anxiety disorders, but can give significant relief from symptoms. The most commonly used medications are anti-anxiety medications (generally prescribed only for a short period of time) and antidepressants. Beta-blockers, used for heart conditions, are sometimes used to control physical symptoms of anxiety.

 

Self-Help, Coping, and Managing

 

There are a number of things people do to help cope with symptoms of anxiety disorders and make treatment more effective. Stress management techniques and meditation can be helpful. Support groups (in-person or online) can provide an opportunity to share experiences and coping strategies. Learning more about the specifics of a disorder and helping family and friends to understand better can also be helpful. Avoid caffeine, which can worsen symptoms, and check with your doctor about any medications.

 

 

 

 

30 Reasons People With Anxiety Can't Fall Asleep At Night

 

 

 

 

When you're anxious, even bed is a battlefield.

According to my mom, I've been cursed with anxiety since I was an infant. I cried and fussed and fretted in a way that surpassed colic.

"You were the only stressed out newborn I have ever seen," my mom pleasantly likes to add.

 

 

That didn't change as I grew up...

 

At least, not until I was somewhere around 12-years-old, discovered the self-soothing wonders of Chapstick, and turned the skin around my lips into an unusually bright red, raw, and terrifying version of real-life clown paint — only I wasn't smiling. I was panicking, and everyone could tell.

I wasn't diagnosed as, like, medically anxious AF until I was a teenager. And even then, having a diagnosis assigned to my racing thoughts and constant nerves didn't soothe me as much as make me feel like a certified, creepy weirdo.

 

Thankfully, at that point, I no longer had clown lips, so at least it was easier for me to blend in with the "normals"... at least, to a certain extent. 

But it wasn't until I was a full-fledged adult and I started talking about my worries in earnest that I realized just how NOT weird a thing it is to have an anxiety disorder of any kind. In fact, the more I shared my experiences, the more I heard people say to me in response, "ME TOO, GIRL! ME TOO!" 

 

When you have anxiety, falling asleep is one of the toughest activities out there.

 

You know you need to sleep. You know it will do your body and the mind inside of that body a world of good. But you just can't shut it down.

Your mind is trapped in a spin cycle of hellish regrets, embarrassing memories, and existential dread.

 

 

 

 

It's like you showed up to a rave and had a really bad reaction to the drugs, so while everyone else is rocking out hardcore 1990s style, you remain stuck in one place, sitting like a statue and questioning every single life choice you've ever made. Like, ever.

There aren't enough days in a year to list all of the things that have ever kept my anxious mind awake at night, but I can absolutely share just a few. If you're at all like me (or if you're close to someone who is), I'm sure at least one or two of the items on these items will inspire you to give me a mental high-five from one anxious person to another.

 

Without further ado, please enjoy these 30 things that trigger my anxiety so hard that I cannot fall asleep at night: 

 

1. Remembering that time I said "Hell" when didn't realize my 6th-grade science teacher was standing right behind me. 

2. How I once said, "You, too!" to a movie theater employee after they ripped my ticket and told me to enjoy the show. 

3. That time I was alone in an elevator that smelled like farts and then someone else got on and I blushed because I knew they thought it was I who dealt it. 

4. When the dean of my grad school went in for a hug at graduation... just as I was putting out my hand. 

5. The inevitability of death. 

 

6. How my mom once found a vibrator in my dresser and called me to ask if I had "any questions."

 

7. When my roommate walked in on me masturbating to "adult cinema."

8. That time I was temping and I forgot what my boss looked like and I asked him if he'd seen himself when his car arrived to pick him up. (Oh, God.) 

9. I went to the doctor convinced I was having a heart attack and it turned out it was just a panic attack so she patted my arm in the MOST condescending way of all time.

 

10. When I gave my dad the finger behind his back... and my mom totally saw it. 

 

11. When I got caught doing a thick Italian accent for my landlord — by an actual Italian. 

12. How I said "Hi" just a beat too late to my boss when we passed in the hallway this morning.

13. That time I used a public bathroom and issued a massive fart that surprised everyone, including myself, and how I waited in the stall for a full twenty minutes before emerging, so deep was my shame. 

14. Worrying about how I'm going to afford the bite guard that I'm supposed to buy to stop me from grinding my teeth.

15. The obvious fact that grinding your teeth will lead to premature death. 

 

 

 

 

16. My deep need to listen to my boyfriend's heart when he's sleep, just to make sure he isn't dead. 

17. That bad dream I keep having that I can't finish a project at work. 

18. Donald Trump. 

19. South Korea.

 

20. The fact that my parents are one day going to die and OH MY GOD I CAN'T EVEN TYPE ANYTHING ELSE ABOUT THAT!

21. My plans for a rigorous new exercise regime that I will (never) begin the next day in order to control my anxiety.

22. Worrying that my last tweet was offensive. 

 

23. That time I was introduced to a colleague's group of friends and said, "What a great little group," before realizing one of those friends was an actual little person.

24. Trying to decide whether or not I should move. 

25. My need to probe my body for cancerous lumps on a regular basis. 

26. Writing my Oscar acceptance speech wherein I perfectly verbally eviscerate all of my enemies.

 

27. The lingering concern over whether or not I remembered to bolt the door. 

28. The near-constant fear that my cat is no longer in the house or is somehow in the midst of eating a hastily discarded packet of silica. 

29. My incessant attempts to interpreting what eight million different things my boss could have meant when she replied to my email with, "OK." 

30. The dreaded (and entirely realistic) possibility that I will never, ever actually fall asleep again. 

 

 

Note: Is it even possible
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I mean the 30 Reason!?

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Sounds foolish... just a little bit

 

 

 

 

Hi Deyth,

Mindset:

The first and most important mindset is that women like older
men.

Over the past 200-plus years, the United States government has
been taking statistics for the age of couples getting married.
Every year, there is a slightly wider gap between the ages of
women and men who marry each other. That's right; women have
ALWAYS gone for older men.

There are evolutionary reasons for this.

Women are programmed to seek security and safety, which provide
the best means to raise a child, and it's a safe bet that an
older man will have increased world knowledge, and other
important assets including personal skills and greater life
experience.

Society seems to force the view that it's older men who are
chasing younger women, and that may be true to some extent,
in more cases it's the women who are looking to date older men.

The second part of the proper mindset is knowing that if you
dedicate yourself to pickup and really get into it, within
two years you will be having more fun with women, and enjoying
more sex than most guys get in their entire lifetime.

The average guy only has sex