How to Talk to Anyone (Junior Talker #3) by DeYtH Banger (best book club books of all time .TXT) 📖

while the second one isn’t much of a conversation starter (and could be seen as judgmental if said in the wrong tone).

 

3. Make observations about your surroundings

 

You might have just introduced yourselves to one another with a series of quick pleasantries; now the conversation is coming to a lull. What should you do now?

Why, make an observation about something nearby of course! One time, a stranger said “hello” to me, at which point I introduced myself as well. Looking around, I noticed that it was pouring rain outside and made a comment about the poor weather. We then used this as a jumping point to talk about what we did earlier in the day because it was raining.

You can make a comment about the weather, the food, or compliment something the other person is wearing. The conversation doesn’t have to simply be about that one thing, but can be used as a springboard for related topics.

 

4. Bring in a third party

 

Introducing a third person into the mix is one of my favorite things to do to keep a conversation going. Let’s face it: sometimes it can be tiring to keep on a conversation. Bringing in another person can mean introducing two new people to each other, and allowing other people to talk while you contribute once in awhile.

And if the two of them really hit it off, it makes for an easy escape if you want to go do something else.

5 Share, then ask for feedback

Talking about yourself requires a delicate balance. The other person likely will want to know something about you, but you don’t want to bore the other person by making the entire conversation about yourself.

What you can do, then, is to share your own experiences, and at the end, ask the other person what their opinions are. If the other person asks you if you’re traveling anywhere soon, you can briefly tell them your plans, and then ask them if they have any recommendations for your trip.

 

Try one of these methods

 

The next time you meet someone, try doing one of these things to keep the conversation going and see what happens. Chatting with someone new can be nerve-wracking, but you never know the stories and experiences that will come out of it.

What’s one of the most interesting conversations you’ve had with someone?
Share your stories below.

 

 

This 3-Minute Exercise Will Help You Deal With Stressful Situations At Work Like A Boss

 

 

 

You've got 3 minutes, right?

 

When things go south at work, sulking about it, avoiding the situation or adding to the office drama will only give you a bad reputation. That's why it's important that you learn how to deal with workplace stresses and awkward situations professionally.

If you want to build your conflict resolution skills and learn how to take negative feedback more positively, this 3-minute exercise can help. ​

 

Here's how this 3-minute exercise can help you deal with stressful situations at work like a pro:

 

1. Start small.

 

The reason this exercise lasts only three minutes is because starting small offers you the best path to success. So pick one thing you want to focus on and do that for up to three minutes — no more.

Here's an example: Let's say you want to talk to your boss about why she feels upset with your performance. Too soon. This conversation is too important to dive into without a little practice and prep work.

So instead, start small and find a colleague who makes you feel stupid or who you find challenging to work with. Next, take three minutes and write down what you would like to say to them, if you could say whatever you want.

That's it. You're done for the day.

 

2. Keep training.

 

The next day during your three minute exercise, keep refining your words. Take up to the allotted three minutes, and write out even a better way to say what you want to say.

That's it. You're done. 

 

3. Take a step.

 

When you're ready — whether it's only been two days since you started this exercise or a full week — plan to have a short meeting with your annoying co-worker and use this as a practice run for talking to your boss. Say what you think is your best sentence or two.

Remember: Keep it under three minutes.

 

4. Ask for feedback.

 

Let your coworker know you are open to hearing his or her feedback, and take it in without judgment. This is when you are about to learn the power of self-discipline.

The only response that works after receiving feedback is "thank you." Don't defend, explain, or justify. Just say "thank you".

 

5. Take another step.

 

Find another stressful work situation, and keep practicing. Write out your thoughts until you get them right. Then say it directly to your coworker, and get their feedback. 

Keep repeating this process until you feel ready to talk with your boss. You will notice the difference. Your ability to listen, accept feedback, and ask for help will have heightened after a few practice rounds. And as a result, your response to this difficult conversation with your boss will be strong, mature and positive.

And the best part is it only takes three minutes!

 

 

C H A P T E R _ Z E R O - Read (Part 1)

Note: Let's clean up the whole shit

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1) What one girl wants is a good story line
... so it needs to start somewhere
2) The monsters which you see... are not really mosters... but guys who are unique and penetrate pussies daily.

 

 

 

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Chapter 11 - Cut the Bullshit Tail

New RULE BIATCHES!

 

 

 

Feeling Disrespected? Know When To Walk Away … Literally

 

 

 

True friends respect your boundaries.

 

It can hurt when someone doesn't like you. Logically, you know you can’t please everyone — although you’ve probably tried and failed like the rest of us. If so, welcome to the party!

Personal boundaries based on your values are the best way to determine who you want in your life and who you don’t. If honesty, integrity, and common courtesy are important to you, people with those qualities are a good fit.

 

Pay attention to who you allow into your world. Your life is precious, and being mistreated hurts.

 

When you have supportive people with the same values close to you, it’s a lot easier to let the others go when you realize they are just not a good fit.

If you keep them, they will cause you to doubt yourself as in wondering what’s wrong with you or what you did. You might wonder why you don’t feel happy or good around them, or why they seem to purposely disagree with you or dislike you.

The truth is, for whatever reason, you two are not a good fit. Period.

 

Remember that YOU have to exhibit the same values you want in other people. Otherwise, you will be on different frequencies (like radio stations) and energetically, you won’t ever meet them.

 

 

Or, they will inspire the worst in you, which will feel out of alignment with who you truly are. So, if you need to do some personal work of your own, do it now.

You may not know someone isn’t aligned with your values right away, so it might come as a surprise down the road. They will undoubtedly show their true colors when they can’t keep up the act anymore. This is an indication they were not living the same values as the people they wanted as friends.

 

Rest assured, these people are just a test. Enforce the boundaries you set by carrying out your pre-determined plan to keep yourself on the right track. In other words, figure out what you will say or do when someone crosses the line (your personal boundary) and DO IT. Immediately.

This implementation part is a biggie for women because we’re taught to get along and to not make waves.

 

 

Sorry, but that gets us stuck in all kinds of detrimental messes. The concept is good, but what our moms didn’t realize is that it doesn’t create a confident, happy, and emotionally healthy woman. Instead, we end up putting ourselves too far down on our priorities list trying to be nice. That leaves us at a deficit, without self-confidence and self-respect, when it’s time to care for people who deserve us.

Let me give you an uncomfortable real-life example of something that happened to me.

 

A good friend and I were going to an event and she invited someone else to join us. My gut feeling was to not go because I’d never gotten a good feeling from the other person. She seemed defensive and unhappy when I’d been around her several times previously. I felt like I was walking on eggshells.

 

I decided to go anyway, thinking it would be different. But it was worse. Eye-opening, but worse.

The three of us were just sitting down to lunch when she lashed out at me as I shared something I’d seen on TV. She spoke very condescendingly, laughed at me, made jokes at my expense, and shook her head in what appeared to be disdain and disgust.

I asked her if she had just said what she said, in order to allow her to explain in case I misunderstood. She just stared as she hid behind sunglasses. She sat stone-faced and silent when I apologized if I had offended her in any way.

Her behavior seemed more like someone in a relationship with a long history of negative experiences, rather than an acquaintance who had happily accepted my invitations for fun activities.

 

 

My friend spoke up and said to just “let it go, and move on,” feeling caught in the middle. While I understand it was uncomfortable, and that ending it quickly would be great, my self-respect doesn't allow me to “let it go” when someone treats me poorly.

 

So, I excused myself, got up from the lunch table, and left.

 

I stuck to my pre-determined plan of action for when someone trampled my boundaries. Had I stayed, in addition to having a miserable time, I would have clearly stated that it was okay to treat me that way.

And that’s what most women do. Because the alternative is uncomfortable for everyone involved. The choice is this: Preserve your self-esteem, have true friends, and get hurt now and then; or cower and cater to a bully, which gives them the power-fix they’re looking for by being mean.

 

Keep in mind personal boundaries and gut feelings are personal. No one else has to agree, approve, or feel the same feelings.

 

 

In fact, you and a friend could meet the same person on the same day in the same situation and feel completely opposite about