Why Do You Want To Change Me? by Santosh Jha (best english novels to read TXT) 📖

By Santosh Jha

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Copyright 2014 Santosh Jha

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Table Of Content

Preface

At The Very Outset

The Core Question Of Wellness

The New Thinking Necessitates Changes

Understanding The Rainbow Of Consciousness

‘Unlearning’ Is Larger Intelligence

No Truth Is Truth, If Not My Truth

Only Compassion Can Effect Changes

The Somethingness In Nothingness

Do Not Be, You Shall Be

Accept My Gratitude

About The Author

Other Titles By Santosh Jha

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Preface

I FEEL TRULY HAPPY to tell you that more than a book, it is like friends chatting up, sharing whatever we can together to enhance the wellness space.

It is my humble belief that any person, in whatever state of consciousness and life positioning, is in some special ways, better than a wisdom-book, for the purpose of life & living learning. I must tell you, I have learnt and more importantly, unlearnt, primarily from people. Books somehow are people-matter in text-format. Collective consciousnesses are ideally vast universe to learn the artistry of individual wellness and excellence from.

Change, as we all know, is accepted as the only constant in the transient world. We are however, not going to talk about change in this perspective, as this change is an auto process, much of it being a product of the cyclic evolution in time and space dimensions. We are talking about changes in the personal domain, changes in mindsets, perspectives and attitudes, which we have to consciously bring about for empowering our consciousness to attain life-living wellness and personal excellence. Moreover, we are not confining deliberation of changes only to the above notions. We are taking the idea of change to a domain beyond contemporary discussion.

In this book, we are accepting change not as something tangible and material but intangible and ideational. There are good reasons for doing so. The central issue is why there is a need for this type of intangible changes to happen in our deep consciousness. That is why we have upped the boundaries of our talks about change by stretching it into the modern contemporary notions about core issues of Consciousness, Cognition and Causality in our world. We are talking about changes in holistic, assimilative and integrative perspectives to bring about the objective and singular logic in favor of such changes. Moreover, we are also going to talk about ‘What, Why and How’ of the changes in personal domain. All these talks are aimed at empowering your consciousness to enhance your life-living wellness and augment the potential of your personal excellence. There always is a purpose to an endeavor and change has utility only when it leads to larger wellness and excellence in life.

However, before we dig into these talks, there has to be a humble admittance – Any word, however well meant and well spelt, is a possible suspect of ‘misrepresentation’. There is a simple reason. Do you remember when your flight is about to land, the pilot aborts the landing, jolting your peace, just because something as insignificant as a ‘stray dog’ happens to be on the runway?

You already know, how similar is the fate of human words, which we all accept as the best and worthy carriers of human ‘intentions’. This airplane of human words, carrying good and noble intentions need to make a good, smooth and safe landing on the runway of another human’s mind consciousness, which again is worthy and hugely able.

Still, the good intentioned words sometimes fail to land on the mind of others, as there is some ‘insignificant’, yet potentially fatal obstacle standing midway the runway!

It is believed, “If the hypothesis is right, the idea is accepted as right”. If two people have an assimilative and integrative attitude, one can easily see that root trouble is in subjectivity of the hypotheses. This helps in resolution of conflict of ideas.

Friendship is one positioning, where assimilation and integration about divergent hypotheses has larger accommodative space. A seed is more objectively accommodative in space than a grown up tree. Friendship is seed positioning. That is why, at the very start, I very affectionately request you to be my friend and accept this all as one long conversation between friends. Kindly, accept this not as a book but a ‘confabulation’ between friends. This, I am confident, shall engender smoothness of navigation and fruition of the entire exercise.

It is a heart-felt realization that our very worthy ancestors; who had the intelligence and courage to face the worst, life made them to, so that we inherit a better beautiful world; have already said almost all good things. What I can do is present them in new set of words with novelty of references.

The only justification of me telling them is that all goodness and wellness ideas and words need to be repeated and retold, to add to their all-pervasiveness.

At the age of 54, I can say with innocence that getting old is such a beautiful and satisfying experience. It makes the ‘self’ accept the ‘utility and fruition’ of holistic, assimilative and integrative consciousness. Getting old has probably pushed ‘me’ close to the ‘eligibility’ of perhaps beginning to understand as what essentially is there to be understood!

I chat up with you to share with you whatever is part of my consciousness. All wisdoms say, human is designed to live in state of ‘flux’, a state of instinctive semi consciousness. To jolt oneself out of this, one must challenge itself; something humanity has done since millions of years. What stays with you is what sinks in. Wisdom is what we internalize.

I share with you whatever I have internalized in my life.

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At The Very Outset

Dare To Prove Yourself Wrong…The Best Thing You Can Do For Yourself…. Why!

All wisdoms say – humans are designed to live in state of ‘oblivion’, a state of instinctive semi consciousness nothingness, a state of blissful inertia, a status quoist comfort zone. To jolt oneself out of this, to eject out of this ‘nothingness’ to full and absolute ‘everythingness’; one must challenge itself, something humanity has done since four million years. This is the doorway to common sense; evolution confirms it. It is better to challenge ourselves, as it feels bad when others point out mistakes in us. Moreover, others may not have the perseverance to keep telling you that you need to change. My humble, affectionate and compassionate attempt is to put in the ideas here for readers to internalize, so that elemental and seed-level changes could be understood and initiated within oneself. Internalizing needs you to drop your narcissism that you ‘know it right’. You may already; however, it is always ideal to stretch the horizon of your righteousness, as this evolution empowers your consciousness and leads to enhanced life-living wellness and personal excellence. We are definitely talking about this here. Dare to prove yourself wrong. If you do not, you are right on your own right. Then, so are others! There has to be a sense, which is common and it comes out of the assimilation of one’s subjective consciousness to objective higher consciousness. Do Let This Sink In, It Shall Stay…!

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The Core Question Of Wellness

There is a saying which goes like, “the questions you possess is half your destiny, the answers you accept remains the other half but, both halves of destinies are poorly linked by a narrow strip of pathway or a bridge called ‘innocence of consciousness’ across an ocean of dualism. What is this bridge about and what this dualism stands for? We shall talk about this all. Kindly mark the two notions, ‘innocence of consciousness’ and ‘dualism’ in your memory as we shall deal with these two in details in this book.

There always have been questions, which help us extend our domain of wisdom. Number of questions we accept, more we open ourselves to newer probabilities of realism. We however usually happily restrict ourselves to fewer questions as initially; questions unsettle our comfort and us. It is natural that people with fewer questions shall have wherewithal of lesser answers. We shall talk here about how true knowledge alone can lead us to larger wellness and true knowledge is a cyclic process of accepting more questions and evolving improved answers. Evolution of humanity in millions of years has been a process of this cyclicality. This is absolute utility for us. The imagery of closed door, as used on the cover of the book is a huge symbol of how we restrict and even constrict our knowledge by closing our minds of many questions and ideas, which we feel uncomfortable with. Our knowledge is the base material from which most of our joys, wellness and excellence are created. This knowledge is a product of a magnanimous mind consciousness, which allows and lets even uncomfortable and unfriendly ideas and questions sink in. What sinks in, stays and knowledge is a function of this memory of fruitfully processed experiences, which stays after deep sinking in. Therefore, the first intelligence in all humans is the innocence. We talked above about the importance of the bridge called innocence, which connects two part destinies into one whole. This intelligence of innocence is in being an open door person, allowing this sinking in to happen so that utility and fruition stays.

Answers too have always been there. As we talked earlier, accepting questions is one part of destinies but other part remains as how we accept answers. It is not easy for most people to accept objective, singular answers in holistic, assimilative and integrative way. Their subjective consciousnesses are happy with the inertia of comfort of answers that suit their own state of mind. The simple understandable fact is, we do not and cannot create realisms and truths. In our subjective consciousnesses, we feel, we have ‘our’ own answers and they are right. The objective reality is that answers are always singular as truth happens to be singular, even as we think, we can create different truths and answers to one question. Truth is there since billions of years. We therefore do not and cannot create answers of all questions of humanity. We can and we do however, unravel and discover answers and realisms, which are already there. All idealisms of realisms are only unraveled, as they all are already created there, within and outside our conscious self. Be it the brilliant philosophers or scientists, they all have only discovered realisms, never created them. Gravity was discovered by scientists, not created as, it was and shall remain there much before the question of gravity came to us. True and singular objective answers are there, even when questions are not even born.

The idea to put forward in this book is simple. There are questions and they are important because only when we accept questions, we move to discover the answers, which are already there. This is the singular objective road to knowledge building. However, wisdom or knowledge comes in stages; they are not usually arrived at suddenly. Like answers, questions are also born and evolved in time and space dimensions. Long history of humanity shows us how key life-living questions evolved in stages and their answers too came in stages. That is why we have to constantly move away and beyond our current state of mind consciousness, which has the instinctive inclination for accepting and be happy with comfort of inertia of few questions and subjectively created answers. We talk about this change in our mindsets and perspectives. Opening the door and being prepared to be at the readiness