I Am A Woman And Not Stupidly Touchy About It by Santosh Jha (books under 200 pages txt) 📖

times too, men remain the largest perpetrators of atrocities and violence against women…

Somehow, acceptance of objectivity comes from acceptance of our own mechanism. In the new millennium, we now know a hell lot about how human brain works and how our stupid brain, a scary organ of human evolution, which itself is established as ‘stupid engineering’, makes us close to apes and gorillas.

The objective singularity of the problem of crime and violence against women having been accepted, the singular objective solution is simple –

We humans are different from apes and gorillas only because we have evolved language and we live in somehow complex yet organized societies and arrayed cultures. To be human, we all need strong, logically objective and intellectually aligned education for mind training. This education is not about how one cracks certain college or competitive exams and becomes engineer, doctor, scientist, administrator, etc, but is about how a person can learn to ‘unlearn’ his or her visceral drives and act/behave responsibly in structured societies and cultures. This education is about how a person’s all live-living decision-making rises above drives and instincts to a state of consciousness, where his or her decision-making is solely guided by higher social intelligence…

Tragically, no government, no culture, in any country has been successful in evolving such an education. This is simply because; this education is not a government’s burden. It is the duty and responsibility of families and societies. The primary onus is on father and mother. Apes and gorillas can only produce apes and gorillas. Only human parents can think of having a human son and daughter…!

The holism of all solutions is – acceptance of visceral human stupidity as a species and then the learning process to weed out those instincts and drives, which keep him or her in the league of animals…!

The very critical issue of crime and violence against women needs to be accepted intellectually and objectively; never emotionally as the media, social voices and celebrities present it. The young women have to see and accept that average human, constituting bulk of population in most milieus, are as unpredictably unsafe as they are only true to their drives and instincts, which are animal like. Also, every human being may look the same but humans have different, at least seven competing shades or memes of consciousnesses. Therefore, everyone, irrespective of gender, should accept this ‘unpredictability’ of human actions and behaviors. This is gender-neutral stupidity and threat to all – women and men. Naturally, one needs to be mentally and physically ready to deal with such unpredictability of human nature. This is maturity and empowerment…

Secondly, factual data from all parts of the global societies have established the fact that crime and violence against women is more likely in a certain social milieu. Majority of crime and violence against women are perpetuated by those men and women, who are known to them and may well be their relatives, friends and mates. Globally, even in well educated, culturally advanced, economically developed and well governed nations, Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) and domestic violence against women are very high. Even in India, more than 90% of crimes against women are perpetuated by ‘known people’. That is why, there is this saying – ‘The Most Unsafe Place For A Woman Is Home…!’

Often, there is a perception about a realism, which makes a problem look far more good or bad in popular knowledge. That is why, it is important that modern women must unlearn such populist notions and look at the realism with objectivity and equanimity of consciousness and cognition.

For example, in the animal world of natural instinctive behavior, it is accepted that herbivores can consume only ten percent of available plants of the world for their energy needs. Similarly, even the carnivores can predate only ten percent of herbivores for their energy needs. This means, a major part of 90 percent of herbivores are lucky enough not to be predated. But, what we popularly perceive is that poor herbivores have the toughest of life as they are always predated and carnivores are the kings of jungle as they can kill anyone. The reality is – the chances of lions and tigers being killed in territorial rivalries or otherwise; are higher than their own chances of predating others. Similarly, herbivores have more chances of dying in other incidents than being predated. However, popular perceptions are far away from this reality.

Therefore, true empowerment for not only women but anyone is to see, understand and accept objective facts and realities of life on earth, human nature, social fabric and cultural realism. We have a huge case of non-emotional and intellectually inclined acceptance of the situation that crime and violence against women is not a ‘gender issue’, not a ‘symptom or syndrome’ of social and cultural malaise. Rather, it is simply and stupidly a natural expression of how human poorly body-mind has been designed by evolution. It is about how, we as humans have failed in accepting ourselves as big stupids and never ever feeling the need for objective-logical mind training since childhood to instill ‘some sense and sanity’…

Brutally offensive and very unpleasant it may sound but this is a human reality in our world that – ‘Whatever is up there with some utility and worth, it is up for predation and pilferage…!’ This is some realism, about which nobody should be touchy about. Human selfishness, sense of ‘I & Me’ is visceral and we all are wired for such behavior – men or women. Human empowerment is about singular objective, logical and unemotional acceptance of realism, as it is.

Out of nearly half million murders in world every year, 90% victims are men; women are only 10 percent victims. This hints at non-emotional acceptance that crime should ideally be not seen and accepted as ‘gender-specific’ but must be objectively accepted as ‘mechanism-problem’ of human body-mind make-up. We need to accept that ‘predation’ has a pattern, which is gender-neutral. Predatory issues are unemotionally and realistically about this singular objective hypothesis that – Whatever is up there with some utility and worth, it is up for predation and pilferage. This predation and pilferage pattern may vary. Like, which carnivore predates which herbivore and how much, varies in different geographical territories. However, common, essential and over-encompassing pattern is that whatever is being predated is a ‘worth’ for life-living. The only difference is – in human world, this predation may not always be ‘survival-essential’ but for many other perceived reasons. However, none of these reasons is unpredictable and therefore all such reasons have decipherable pattern. Empowerment is to see and accept that.

At present, only 10 percent women are victims of global murder incidents. However, as social and cultural changes are taking place, may be few decades from now, this figure may go up to 30-40 percent. Few decades back, it was rare to even think of a male rape victim. However, in contemporary times, there are millions of male rape victims in USA. Over 90,000 men are victims of rape in a year in USA with around half of rape perpetrators are females.

The simple and very unemotionally singular realism is – it is visceral for humans to have predatory instincts. Most of us have it. Everything with any utility and worth is up for possible threat of predation. Yes, what is predated and who is the predator is essentially time-space specific but reality is, it is human stupidity – truly and singularly gender-neutral…

We humans are wired and constructed this way. Predatory threats are always there. Survival however has always been unemotional objective skill and realistic-pragmatic artistry; never an idealistic-emotional virtualism…

This objectivity and unemotional acceptance needs to be inculcated since childhood. We all see and know that young kids, even 6-8 years of age explicitly show up this ‘predatory-instinct’, which is essentially a wired behavior in humans; a vestige of past, the ‘tribal-viscerality’. These kids would gang-up and pick up someone from their own group for ‘predation’. This solitary victim shall be subjected to jeers and mockery, even occasional violence to submit to the might of the gang. The gang enjoys it and feels great about their ‘enterprise’. It is like lion cubs playing the games of jostling up with siblings, as preparation for their predatory life ahead.

Humans too are wired for predatory behavior. Scientists have confirmed that racialism is also a wired behavior, a visceral one, owing its genesis in old, archaic and now obsolete ‘tribal-living’. Thousands of years back, when humans lived in tribes, they were often attacked by other tribes and predated for ‘worth’ in their possession. For security reasons, members of a tribe would dress and look similar, to identify any intruder rival, who would be from other tribe and would look different. Therefore, human brain is wired to look at suspicion and with upfront violence at anyone, who is not similar looking to them. A bearded non-white man in USA automatically elicits ‘suspicion’ in the minds of many white Americans. We are wired for not only this stupidity of racialism but thousands of similar and more calamitous stupidities. Empowerment is to attain freedom from these visceral stupidities…

Therefore, without carrying any emotional baggage, young women need to see and accept the problem of crime and violence against women very objectively and holistically, sans emotionalism. Crime and violence has a pattern and genesis, which is deeply embedded in human body-mind make-up. This is objective realism. Therefore, this should be accepted logically, objectively and unemotionally. This empowerment then can easily work out logical and singularly objective solutions.

The solutions may be as listed below –

This world may have majority of average humans with little intellectual self-control, still, there always are good and righteous people in any milieu. Young women need to develop this habit of aligning themselves with such people in any milieu, especially when they are alone, in unknown milieus and vulnerable. There is a beautiful example of survival-symmetry in nature where Zebras, Deer and Gazelles always move and graze together as this helps them stand a better chance of survival when their predators attack them.

Young women must develop this artistry of deciphering as what is the shade of consciousness of a person they are being friendly with. Remember, since thousands of years, it is women who have shaped human righteousness. If women decisively reject and renounce those with dubious and grey shades of consciousnesses, men shall have to change it. Never ever allow any latitude to persons, who do not stand up to the high standards of evolved consciousness. Have zero tolerance for frivolous and casual disposition by all, even family members. Always remember, humanity has evolved well from ape to humans as evolution was energized by ‘sexual selection’, which is exclusively controlled by women. It is the power of women’s definitive ‘NO’, as against frivolous ‘YES’, which has always engendered good cultures and societies…

There is this objective realism of life – ‘Love may be precious, gains of life may be luring, however, nothing can replace the respect of a human, irrespective of men or woman.’ Therefore, in any walk of life and living, never ever compromise with your self-respect. Everyone must respect others. Simple as it is – ‘To love or not to love may be your choice, but to respect me is option-less’. This need is gender-neutral.

Empowerment is not about having what you want to have. For all humans, not only a woman, it is important to accept that empowerment means ‘self control’. Our drives are very powerful and they always lead our judgment of desires and consumption. However, empowerment means, you have a consciousness, which can rise above these drives. Young women especially must accept that not only they have to work for this brand of ‘true empowerment’, but also have to ensure that they align and be friends with only such ‘empowered’ people. We shall talk about this shade of empowerment in later chapters when we talk about how viscerality needs to be unlearnt.

Most people say that solutions are all about a ‘positive mind’, which can work its way