How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You Leil Lowndes (nonfiction book recommendations .TXT) 📖

When you become a real expert on eye watching, you can gauge how well you're doing by the size of your Quarry's pupils. If the pupils start shrinking, an involuntary horn is blasting, "Thibsoirs-ing!" If, however, his or her pupils start growing, an internal alarm is shouting, "I'm interested. Tell me more."

TECHNIQUE #10:

EYEBALL CONVERSING

Don't just babble on, oblivious to your Quarry's reactions. Like a top sales pro, watch your prospect carefully and gauge your pitch accordingly. That way, your Quarry is more apt to buy your act.

How to Know What Topics Turn Your Quarry On

It's frustrating to be chatting with an attractive stranger and get stuck in the small-talk rut. You are silently screaming out, "Gosh, I like you. I hope you like me, too. Here we are, making chitchat, but I want our discussion to be more interesting, more meaningful. What woulydoureally like to talk about?"

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I've developed a surefire technique to ease the transition out of small talk and onto a subject that is closer to your new Quarry's heart. I call itcherry picking . While your Quarry is making small talk, scoop up any unusual references in the

conversation—any anomaly, any deviation, any digression, or any invocation of another place, time, or person. Pick that word out, because it's your key to know what your Quarry wouldreallylike to talk about.

Suppose, gentlemen, while walking home from work, a sudden rainstorm breaks out. You dart for the nearest shelter, a coffee shop. You go in, shake yourself off, and, as you sit down, you spot striking Ms. Attractive Stranger on the next stool. You clear yo ur throat and take a chance.

''Wow," you say. "Looks like it's going to be some storm out there, huh?" She turns toward you and seems receptive. "Sure does."

You are groping for something else to say. "Uh, do you come here often?"

Your Quarry seems amused at your line, but still interested. "No, not too often." She smiles. "I stopped in here for a hot coffee to get out of the rain."

You venture, "Yeah, it's really coming down, isn't it?" Well, it might not be brilliant, but it keeps the conversation going.

"Oh, well." Your Quarry shrugs. "At least it's good for the plants."

You both look out the window momentarily and then back at each other. You smile. Your Quarry gives you a forced smile. Then neither of you can think of anything else to say, so you both stare back into your coffee cups. End of possible love affair.

Rats! It started out so great. The small talk was comfortable. Your Quarry was smiling and leaning in, and she seemed receptive to you. But when it came time to get off the boring stuff and on to more interesting topics, you got tongue-tied.

Here's a quiz. In the above small talk, there was an escape hatch, acherry. Ms. Attractive Stranger said one word that you

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could have picked up on that would have catapulted you right out of small talk and into something much more interesting for her. Did you spot it?

Answer: It was the word plants .

Let's go back to your less-than-riveting discussion of the weather. Just before you were afflicted with that sinking "What do I say next" feeling, she said, "At least it's good for tphleants. To the savvy Hunter, that's a cue. Perhaps you wouldn't know a daffodil from a dandelion, but obviously plants are part of your new Quarry's life, or she wouldn't have used the word. Subconsciously, even unbeknownst to her, she was crying out, "I really prefer to discuss plants."

TECHNIQUE #11:

CHERRY PICKING

You'll never be stuck for good discussions with your Quarry if you pick up on theconversational cherry .

Listen for any slightly unusual word. That's your cherry seed. Plant it, and watch it flower into a memorable first conve rsation for your Quarry.

After she threw out that cherry, you should have asked, "Oh, do you have a garden?" Maybe she has a vegetable garden, a roof garden, a hanging garden, or a victory garden. Maybe she has no garden at all but just loves plants. You don't know yet, but you do know that plants are somehow part of her world.

Otherwise the word wouldn't have slipped out.

Now, suppose, instead of saying "At least it's good for the plants," she had said, "I know, it's like a tropical storm out there, isn't it?" Your Quarry has just given you the cherry to save the conversation: tropical storm .

Say, "Oh, have you been to the tropics?" Chances are she has, or at least has a knowledge of them, or it wouldn't have

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welled up from her subconscious when discussing the rainT.ropical, to you, may just be a way to describe a storm, but to the person who uttered the word it has a more intense connection. Learn how to be a word detective.

Suppose she had said, "Because of the rain my dog can't go out," or "Yes, the rain has been dropping leaves in my pool." In this casedogor poolis your ticket to hotter conversation, at least for Ms.

Attractive Stranger.

How to Fool Your Quarry into Thinking You Two Are Already in Love

If you eavesdrop on a man and a woman talking at a party, you could probably tell from just one minute of conversation how intimate they are. Are they new acquaintances? Just friends? Or are they lovers?

You wouldn't even need to hear them call each otherdear, darling , or lambie pie . Nor would you have to see their body language to figure out their relationship. It wouldn't mattwerhat they were discussing, or even their tone of voice. You could just tell.

How? By the level on which they were talking to each other. There is a fascinating progression of conversation depending how close two people are.

Here's how it develops.

Level One: Cliches

Two strangers talking together primarily tossclichesback and forth. Let's suppose they are chatting about the universally recognized world's dullest subject, the weather. Two strangers would say,

"Great weather we've been having," or "Boy, some