How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You Leil Lowndes (nonfiction book recommendations .TXT) 📖

theother one. The other one was terrifying! It swayed from side to side, blew in the wind, and tipped precariously

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over the gorge. Only a few brave feet ever trod across this bridge.

In the study, male subjects were assigned to walk across either one bridge or the other. Whichever bridge they traversed, all males were met on the other side by a female research assistant.

After crossing the bridge, either the solid one or the tippy, precarious one, a female research assistant showed each subject a picture. He was told to write a brief story about it. Then the female research assistant thanked the subject and gave him her home phone number. She casually remarked that if he would like to "further discuss the experience," he could call her at home.

What was this experiment all about? The researchers were looking to see which stories had more sexual imagery and which men took the female research assistants up on their invitation to call them at home.

The men who had walked across the scary bridge wrote the sexiest stories, and men who crossed the scary bridge—you guessed it—were more apt to call the females at home to discuss the traumatic experience. The experiment showed that anxiety-producing situations create a more erotic turn-on.

Why? Recall the drug we discussed earlier, phenylethylamine, or . Fear produces that same PEA substance which shoots through our veins in the early stages of infatuation.

Give Your Quarry First-Date Butterflies Obviously it's neither possible nor practical to suggest an outing where you make your date cross a scary bridge. But science tells us, if your first experience together is stirring, your date will transfer the strong emotions to you.

Hunters, you could take her horseback riding or surfing. If these physical activities are too strenuous, choose an emotionally exhausting experience—a moving play, a scary movie, or a great concert. For example, a beautiful ballet leaves me emotionally exhausted. Perhaps your Quarry is moved by music.

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Maybe she loves the opera. Maybe he's into watching dogfights.

Sharing anxiety and talking about a stressful situation brings couples together. Many office romances start as the two face the same challenges. Movies, plays, and fairy tales are crawling with heroes and heroines defeating the big bad wolf together and then living happily after.

To test the findings in another way, the same researchers brought male subjects into a laborator2y7.

They told some of the men they were about to get a series of painful electric shocks. They told others that the shocks would be mild, not at all painful. While each subject was waiting his turn, the researchers introduced him to a young woman (a research assistant) who supposedly was another subject in the experiment. After letting them have a brief conversation, the researchers asked the fellows to fill out a questionnaire evaluating the woman he had just met.

Once again, the anxiety-filled fellows (those who thought they were about to receive a strong electrical shock) rated the young lady more favorably than their more relaxed brothers. This proved once again that someone is more likely to be attracted to another if he or she is emotionally aroused—even if the arousal does not come from that person.

TECHNIQUE #17:

GIVE FIRST-DATE BUTTERFLIES

When planning your first date, find out what pulls your Quarry's strings, then plan an arousing, emotional experience. You don't have to risk life and limb together, but a little early shared anxiety is a proved aphrodisiac.

Then, of course, it's nice to have dinner afterward so you can discuss the traumatic experience.

Plant the Seeds of Similarity

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Later we'll explore how vital a sense of similarity is to making your Quarry fall in love with you. Now, on the first date, is the time to plant those seeds. This technique, although for both sexes, is more crucial for women because females get close through talking.

Males bond through doing activities together.

Many women forget this major difference. On their first date, they suggest a place where they can talk and get to know each other. That's getting close, female-style. If you are strategically planning to make him fall in love with you, there is a better way.

Suggest an activity that will bring you close, malestyle. Huntresses, simply find out what activities interest him, and suggest you do that together. He gets the subliminal message, "This woman fits in with my lifestyle."

You may be bored to tears at the basketball game, the boxing match, or the horse race, but if that's his passion—and you want to become his passion, too—

it's your best ploy.

TECHNIQUE #18

(MORE IMPORTANT FOR HUNTRESSES):

FIRST-DATE BONDING

To plant the seeds that you are similar, suggest his favorite interest or activity as a first date.

Remember, to a man bonding isnot sitting across a restaurant table looking deeply into yo ur eyes while discussing feelings—it'sdoing things together.

First-Date Restaurant Smarts

No matter what activity you choose for your first date, it's probably going to involve dinner—before, after, or as the main event. Many men dread the grueling chore of having to choose a restaurant. Should he impress you and depress his wallet, or take you to his favorite hamburger joint?

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Make it easy for him, and show him you're not a gold digger at the same time. If he asks for suggestions, come up with a great little place you think he might enjoy (read: charming but cheap).

TECHNIQUE #19 (FOR HUNTRESSES):

"I KNOW A GREAT LITTLE PLACE"

The way to a man's heart is through his stomach—

and his wallet. In every woman's little black book should be the name of a fabulous, charming, andinexpensive restaurant.

Men, you, too, can choose a charming and inexpensive bistro, but be aware that a first-class dinner at an expensive restaurant is an aphrodisiac for many women. There is a strong argument for taking a lady to an upscale restaurant on the first date—and not to just impress her with your gold credit card.

Youcome off better in a plush setting.

Here's proof. Researchers showed pictures of men and women in various settings to the subject2s8.

They judged the same men and women to be more attractive when they