How to Talk to Anyone (Junior Talker #4) by DeYtH Banger (top business books of all time TXT) 📖

in general – sexuality is something that happens in person first, and on text second. The easiest way to start with with sexual nicknames: sexyface, cutie bootie, sugarlips, delicious – those are all great names I’ve used once we started talking sexual.

hey sexyface, get a good night’s sleep?

Once you’ve kissed her, you can start to turn up the heat considerably. Let’s say you were eating a watermelon, and sent her a photo of it. Your caption to the MMS might read.

yummmmm so delicious… just like ur lips

Accusations and insinuations are where you can really start getting sexual.

hey I was just checking my website’s stats today and found that someone was searching for [your name] naked photos… you know, you coulda just asked me…

ok nighty night, and remember… you better keep my clothes on in your dreams

The biggest problem I see with guys using this stuff is when they are trying to create, rather than grow, the sexuality that is already there. These texts go over GREAT if you have already established a sexual dynamic, but don’t write to me and tell me they didn’t work if you don’t already have a flirty, sexy vibe established!
Damn You AutoCorrect

Who hasn’t had a problem with autocorrect? Heck, there’s even a hilarious website that sprang up with funny autocorrects. Here are two examples of autocorrect that worked out well. Example 1 – In this case, a client had already had sex with a girl, and wanted to end a subsequent evening of texting on a sexual note.

client: ok bed time nighty night x

her: night night!x

client: i wanna fuck you in your bed and read you a story ;)

client: oops! damn! predictive text!…*TUCK you into bed*

her: hahahaaha! perhaps i’d prefer the 1st one ;)

client: if you’re lucky;)

Example 2 – this is great for when a girl is about to show up for a second or third date, there’s already some sexual chemistry established. In this example, she was actually texting me to tell me she’d was on her way – once she told me she saw it, I knew it’d be about two minutes before she arrived.

her: remind me where it is again?

me: upstairs bar, corner of w bway and houston next to dos caminos

her: ok I see it

me: ok see u in about 63 sex

me: errrr 63 secs

her: lol thought you’d invented a new move

me: maybe i have maybe i haven’t… but either way autocorrect isn’t getting credit for it ;)

It also adapts nicely for when she beats you to your date spot… you tell her that you’re waiting at the bar and she tells you she’ll be there soon.

her: I’m here at the bar

me: k super close, see u in about 63 sex

me: errrr 63 secs
Fun Games

These two games both came from clients. Very fun if things have already gotten sexual between the two of you.

client: wanna play line by line

her: Whats that?

client: Well we make a story but you can only send one sentence at a time

her: ahh ok

client: ill start, you walk into my room wearing nothing but that little black nighty

her: slowly walk over to the bed and start to kiss you

You can probably see where, if you were in a relationship with a girl and wanted to turn up the heat or just spark a great night, this would really light it up.

me: ok let’s play a game… I’ll send you one word and you have to think of a word that matches it, and vice versa

her: ok…

me: spank…

her: bondage

me: oral…

her: pleasure

me: deep…

her: hard

me: swallow…

her: wet

me: dripping…

her: orgasm

me: doggy…

her: style

me: hardcore…

her: omg , so turned on right now…

This takes advantage of the psychological effect of priming – if you have people reading certain words and saying certain words it primes them for certain activities. Here you are priming sexual urges with the girl. If you’ve already had a few dates that have turned into sex (2 or more), this one is a great way to precede the next date.
Getting Naked Pics

Sure, there’s a technique here, but more important than the technique is her comfort level with you – and comfort is something that’s established over time. If you follow the principles in the Girlfriend Activation System, you’ll find that girls will start sending you naked photos without much prompting.

The #1, gotta-have-it, most-important-thing that precedes her sending you naked photos is that she’s comfortable with you and your judgment, and she knows that you have a “trusted private space” with her. This originates in your values, and it’s not really something you can fake. There is some stuff in the Girlfriend Activation System that will help you communicate these values, but if it’s not where your heart is, she’ll know.

A few other important points: she already knows that you think she’s sexy. She also knows that you’re sexually mature – you’re not just some man-child who is going to show off her pics to your friends. It starts with an MMS exchange – this is something that should be “woven” into your communications with her, starting much earlier in your texting relationship. Sexuality will become a part of your relationship as you get to know her, date her and use some of the other material in this section. At some point, the two of these things (MMS and sexuality) will begin to intersect.

Some girls will take it upon themselves to send you photos of clothes they’re trying on, sexy (but not naked) photos, or pics of themselves at the beach, the pool, or other spots where they’re not wearing many clothes. Other girls will need a little bit of “priming.” You can start by sending her a pic of you in something that you look really good in… an awesome suit, new shirt… DON’T be cliche and send a shirtless pic at the get-go.

Go clothed first and ease your way into things. Once she replies to you, (usually it’ll be something complimentary), respond with “haha thanks… your turn now.” Once she starts sending you pictures, it is absolutely critical that you are complimentary. In the language of social dynamics, you’re “giving her approval” for sending you pics, and making her feel great about it. A few examples:

wow, that looks like the designer made it for your body

you are gonna make all the girls jealous in that bikini… that thing is ridic hot

wow what an amazing dress… lemme see the back, I bet there’s something awesome going on back there

Notice that nowhere in those is there a tease or a “neg” or anything else that would take away her value. It’s all about giving love and making her feel good. And critically, there’s nothing overly sexual in those messages. One time I had a client who sent a text that read “you’re gonna give at least thirty guys boners tonight in that outfit“. He wasn’t trying to be a bumbling fool, but that text was the sort of childish, locker-room sexuality that should be reserved for guy talk. Send a few texts like that, and you’ll be surprised at what girls will start sending you.

For those who don’t outright offer to start sending you pics, you can gently hint at how much you’d like to see her naked. Please note: you can’t just drop this stuff into the middle of a text conversation! That’d be like trying to have sex with a girl in the middle of the bar while you’re talking about some neutral conversation topic. You’ve got to get her warmed up with the stuff we’ve already covered.

me: hmmm my phone just got like ten degrees warmer when I opened that pic… super hot but if this keeps up you might cause it to melt

her: well then I hope you have insurance ;) [pic attached]

me: All these pics are amazing, but there’s one thing keeping them from being perfect…

her: Oh really, and what’s that?

me: Too much clothing. If only there was an easy way to fix that…

her: hmmm, how about this [photo attached]

me: Truly your body is a work of art

her: haha thank you ;) You’re not too bad yourself.

me: Thanks. But you know that some of DaVinci’s finest works were nudes, right?

her: I think I heard that somewhere, perhaps

me: I wonder how you would pose if he were to paint you

her: Do you think he would like this pose ;) ? [photo attached]

Note one thing that all of these texts have in common: I’m having fun with them. Rather than begging or pleading or evenasking her to send naked photos, I’m using funny insinuations. When you look at sexuality as a fun dance, or a game that is played with finesse, you’ll find that women become much more receptive to your advances. And if you’re creative with your praise and your requests, they has a lot of fun playing along and doing their part.

A final note on the subject of naked photos: there are some girls who just won’t send them to you, no matter what. It could be privacy concerns (smart girl), modesty, or otherwise. So if you’ve tried some of the above and she’s not biting, don’t push it further! It’s not worth pushing a great girl away just so you can get a naked picture of her."

 

 

 

P.S. - All convos are made to create an impact...

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If you don't create an impact... no reason to start the discussion at first place.


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"She has an iPhone, and so do you!
She likes how simple it is to use the
phone, (and for the sake of this
example, so do you).

This would never work out, because
you two would always be fighting over
who got to use the one charger next to
the bed at night. (BARRIER)

She likes to go hiking and camping. On
the other hand, you’ve only ever been
on vacations to beaches and big
touristy cities.
She loves being outdoors, and
challenging new adventures. You’ve
always wanted to experience the spirit
of the wild.

You’re going to take a hiking trip
together where she can show you how
to kill a bear with her bare hands and
avoid wiping with poison oak (TEASE).

Additional Thoughts: What does the fact that she likes “simple technology” and Apple tell you about her? How could you tease her or
build a connection with that? If you’re both huge Apple fans, you could FUTURE PROJECT about camping out for the next iPhone.


You could
add a BARRIER like “but I’m only sharing a sleeping bag if it gets really cold.” Or maybe the two of you could stay topical for awhile and talk
about your favorite apps. If you’re a “PC Person,” you have all sorts of teasing opportunities.

Additional Thoughts: A girl who likes to go hiking is pretty awesome! When she tells you that, you could give her a COMPLIMENTARY
TEASE like “oh, an outdoors-y type! have you ever killed a bear with your hands?” After the interpersonal TEASE above, you could jump back
into the Topic of camping (what do you eat, how does such a little girl carry a big backpack?) or you could go Personal and ask her how she
got into camping (maybe it was a Daddy-Daughter thing, and now you can ask about her relationship with her Dad).

They’re drinking girly drinks, and you’re
still deciding on what to have... or if you
even want to drink tonight.

They must be celebrating something if
they’re getting “girly drink drunk”
tonight - or they’re trying to get the
attention of all the guys in the room!
You might just have to keep your eye
on them. Out of concern, of course, as
the last time you got girly drink drunk
you swam to Scotland (SILLINESS)

Additional Thoughts: Swimming to Scotland was something silly that came to mind, and in this case, we framed it as concern for them.

But you could easily give them a FRAMING TEASE like “I better keep my eye on you guys - five blondes getting girly drink drunk is a recipe
for trouble. which one of you is the instigator?” Or if you want to make that funnier, add a silly metaphor - “I better keep my eye on you guys
- five blondes getting girly drink drunk is a more trouble than feeding chocolate to puppies. So